It’s funny (how diplomatic I am sometimes) hear some submissives (more than I’d like) to talk about the wonders they see in videos and how much they would like a Domme would make them that.
There are very good clips of real Dommes, but don’t talk about those, no, they speak of those in which the beautiful actresses (Santa does not exist, face it) perform much sex and much of what can attract a male.
Imagination is free and we all have fantasies, but is heavy that you arrive to a Domme and tell her all you want her to do unto you when a submissive is to serve her (with or without sex) and when it does not depend on your desires, but hers.
There are submissives who doesn’t inspire me more sex than deny it, enclosing his penis in a chastity device and holding the keys, others over whom I exercise my sadism and others I use sexually when and how I please . Even to the latter I can drive them crazy with constant tease and denial for my amusement. But for me (and many others) is not arriving, have a drink and destroy the room or dungeon, but much more than satiate your desire and your interests.
Sex is the basis of our instincts and I consider myself a sensual and sexual woman, but sex is not what I look for in a submissive. If I am not attracted to your inner (or your penis prevents you to show what you have inside), what makes you think that staging your fantasies is a priority for me?